Monday, May 20, 2013

The Coffee House Investor


Came across again with this blog i just recently discovered. Incidentally, the post that i was directed into was about focus. It talks about being specific and targeting your niche to become successful. At the back of my mind, it tells me to post more finance related (boring) stuff to get to my audience (do i have one?).

Then my thoughts continue running again about focusing on writing or about setting off an adventure or visit some place new every weekend or just start a big project. I really need to start a new project. A project that will link up with my 2015 goals. 

Anyway, this post is the continuation of the series "Books that I have read this 2013". You know that my goal for this year is to finish off reading 12 books. A very small number. It is almost one book a month. So far here are the books that i have completed

  1. The Happiness Project
  2. The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
  3. The Winning Attitude
  4. How to Work a Room
And now, this post is about "The New Coffee House Investor" by Bill Schultheis

For those in a hurry and born with the skimming habit, the book is about diversification. Diversification is about not putting all your eggs in one basket. It means investing not only in a single company but in different companies in different industries. The goal is that you create your own mix of companies so that you minimize losing a lot of money just because one company ending up bankrupt.

I did not really enjoy the book about diversification because i already came across with this topic back in college and when I was taking up my MBA. But the book explained it well and served as a good refresher. It is really helpful especially those without finance background and for people who still waste their money investing in mutual funds instead of creating their own. Yes. If you are still investing in mutual funds, the book is good for you to consider to save management fees that these mutual fund companies charges you.

Having said that, let me share tidbits or takeaways i am getting from the book

On Second Chances
 "Life can give you a second chance on a lot of things but it does not turn back the clock".

This is true. We can always start again. In times where I feel like i made a big mistake and there is no way I can recover from it, I tell myself that life will always give second chance even if i do not see it that way at that particular moment. There is a catch, however. Second chance means a portion of your life has been spent as well. For me, this is life telling me that if I discovered something I want to do now that somehow there is a regret not discovering it way back, i should go for it because I do want to look back ten years from now being in the same place regretting things I did not do.

On Taking Small Steps
There are times in my life when I contemplate starting a project that seems almost too overwhelming to start, like writing a book, training for a marathon, or building a radio-controlled biplane with a six-foot wingspan and what seems like a thousand little wooden pieces, but I keep close at heart a suggestion by Mark Twain, who said that the secret to getting ahead is getting started, and so I begin...

I would not comment on this but instead i suggest you plan and run a marathon. You will totally relate about this. About taking small steps that will bring you closer to your goal.

Climbing a mountain has a lot to do with putting one foot in front og the other, slowly and methodically, even when you don't feel like it, until there's only one way to go - down, because you have reached the top.

On Connecting with Others
This journey is a little different for each of us, but in the end, most if us would probably agree that it is the connection to other people in our lives that matters most of all. 

A key development area for me. I was born extrovert but I am working to be more connected, to be more open minded and learn from people around me. This has been the key message i am getting from the books that i am reading. To connect with people and let them teach me something that I do not know. 

On Pursuing Your Passion
These are the people who realize that fulfillment in life comes not from the size of a bank account but from the amount of energy put forth pursuing things that give meaning to their existence

This is a cliche but I am a believer of this. That one must enjoy his job/work to the extent that one is still willing to do it even if he/she will not be paid. This helps fuel the passion in moments where I am so stressed about my job, about beating deadlines and completing projects.  All I have to do is ask "will I still do this?", "knowing what I know now, will i still do it if given a choice?' Most of the time, I still say yes. There is that aspect in my job that I love so much that to keep on going, i just need to remind myself that i can learn to love that portion of the job that I do not like doing.

On Minimalism
i was addicted to the clutter of everyday life and it finally dawned on me that the clutter in my life might be keeping me from pursuing my dreams and living a life I would choose to life if given a chance to do it all over again.

Too bad I can not comment on being a minimalist. This is one thing that I want to do but physically not yet able to do so. With all the trash and memorabilia, i have long way to go.

So there you go. Those are the key learnings i am picking up from the book. Are you planning to read it? Tell me if you have thoughts or if you have a book to recommend. 

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

How to Work a Room - Susan RoAne



Are you shy like me? I will be the first to admit that I am shy. Shy in a way that I am not one of those who can enter a room full of strangers and go out knowing almost everyone in the room. I can walk and engage people in conversation but most of the time it takes me time to do that. I have to spend some time and know the person first before I shift to a good conversationalist and communicator.

Looking at the past, i can list down numerous events where I decided to just stay at home than mingle and party with people. Looks like a loser eh? I do not know. Most of the time, I feel like forcing myself to talk and dress up is a waste of my time. Maybe because I struggle connecting with people I have not seen for a long time or connecting with people i only meet for the first time.

This is actually weird because talking and communicating with people is what I love about my current job. I enjoy talking to people, listening to their stories and sharing my point of views so they can improve their processes. However, as much as I love that part of my job, I really need to work on socializing more and marketing the value that I can deliver. Time and time again, I hear successful people share that it is not enough to be good in what I do but I should be able to sell. Inform people that I am good in what I do and I can help them. Waiting for people to approach me is a waste of time.

For this reason, i decided to read "How to Work a Room" by Susan RoAne.

She shares five roadblocks on working a room
  1. Don't talk to strangers
  2. Wait to be properly introduced
  3. Don't be push. Good Things Come to Those Who Wait
  4. Better Safe than Sorry
  5. Mangled and Mixed Messages

She offers remedies
  1. Redefine the term stranger
  2. Practice a self-introduction
  3. Move from "Guest" behavior to "host" behavior
  4. Eject the "rejector" and Move on
  5. Unmix the mixed message

Same with other books, I will share the key takeaways i am picking up from the book

Be the host - In attending parties or events, I have the tendency to wait to be introduced or entertained by the host. This is fine but if I want to be someone who can engage people in conversation or become friends with other people, i have to shift my approach to "host" behavior. This will not only help the host but I will also help other guests feel more welcome in the party.

Take the Risk and approach a familiar person - In events or malls, whenever I see someone who looks familiar, most of the time i decide not to call or approach the person for fear of rejection. I fear that the other person will not recognize me. Reading the book, the author suggests taking the risk. In the end, if I am wrong I may gain a new friend. Or if the person rejects me, it does not a matter of life and death. 


THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF CONNECTING

  1. Thou shalt prepare
    • attitude
    • focus
    • self-introduction
    • conversation
    • business cards
    • a smile and a handshake
  2. Thou shalt attend
    • RSVP and go! Act like a gracious host
  3. Thou shalt try these strategies
    • Read name tag
    • Go with a buddy
    • Talk to "wallflowers"
    • Approach and be approachable
    • Smile
    • Allow for serendipity
    • Listen
    • Care
    • Extricate courteously and circulate gracefully
    • Follow up
    • Call, email or send "thank-yous"
  4. Thou shalt say something...anything
    • Don't wait; initiate
    • Take the risk; the rewards are thine
    • Listen with interest to the response
    • Smile and make eye contact
    • Pay attention
  5. Thou shalt mind thy manners
    • Learn old and new etiquette and brush up on thy manners
    • Acknowledge others
    • Treat everyone nicely
  6. Thou shalt avoid the common cruthches
    1. Don't arrive too late
    2. Don't leave too early
    3. Don't drink too much
    4. Don't gorge at the buffet table
    5. Don't misuse the buddy system by joining thyselves at thy hips
    6. Don't bring thy cell phone or PDA
  7. Thou shalt remember the Three E's
    1. Make an Effort
    2. Bring thine Energy
    3. Exude Enthusiasm
  8. Thou shalt dress appropriately
    1. Unsure? Ask!
  9. Thou Shalt Remember The Three C's
    1. Courtesy
    2. Charm
    3. Chutzpah
  10. Thou shalt bring thy sense of humor (not Jokes)


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